How Do We Know That We Have Truly Forgiven?

Forgiveness is a tricky one, and certainly a concept that I have been pondering over for years. I’ve read various articles and books, and heard many different points-of-view in respect to how important it is to forgive and let go of the hurt and bitterness of the past. But it’s easier said than done. How often do we feel that we have forgiven and “moved on” only to discover a year or two or ten later that we are still carrying around a small part of that anger, hurt, betrayal or injustice? How do we truly know that we have truly forgiven?

I am certainly not suggesting that I have the answer to this one, as I believe it will be a different journey for everyone. But what I do know, is that it is paramount to our health and happiness to truly, deeply and genuinely forgive those that we feel have “wronged” us.

A little while ago a friend sent me an excerpt titled A Soul’s Journey and it just so happened to be one of the things that helped me to understand the concept of true forgiveness. I sincerely hope that it helps and touches your soul as much as it does mine, because true forgiveness does not include superiority or judgement.

Imagine what kind of world it would be if we didn’t hold on to our anger, bitterness and hurt; imagine what kind of world it would be if we generated thoughts and feelings of love for oneanother (even those who we believe have acted in an unkind or immoral manner); imagine what kind of world it would be if we put an end to the ignorant behavior of perpetuating separation and disharmony.

A Soul’s Journey

There was a soul whose time had come to take a human birth, and so it went to the great cavern in the infinite void where all such souls went. In the cavern there were hundreds of thousands of souls, each manifesting as a small blue flame.

When it’s time came, the soul stood up and said ‘my time has come to take human incarnation, for I have work to do and many lessons to learn. In my life as a human I shall need family and loving friends to help me, to love me and to nurture me. Who will be my friends and family on earth?

A ripple flickered across thousands of flames and shortly, a few stood forward and said ‘we do not know you, we have not met before and are strangers, but being kind and giving love is a pleasant and easy task. We will be your friends and family on earth.’

The soul spoke again and said ‘And on earth I shall need teachers, people to guide me, to correct me and to discipline me. Who will be my teachers?

Again a ripple went round the assembled flames, and a group came forward and said, ‘we have known you in other lives and we have grown to respect and like you. We will take on the task of being your teachers in this life.’

And a third time the soul spoke and said, ‘and on earth, if I am to learn the greatest lessons of all, the lessons of humility, tolerance under provocation, and love to those who hate me, I shall need enemies. I need people to hate me, abuse me and do violence against me. Who will do this for me?

Who will be my enemies on earth?

There was a long pause in the cavern, until at last, a small group came forward and said, ‘we are your soul group. ‘We have known and loved you over aeons of time, and your growth and learning are as dear to us as our own. This is the most delicate and difficult of tasks, and if you are to be hurt and abused, it is better done by loving friends. We will be your enemies on earth.’

Forgiveness – A brief thought…
We must forgive those we feel have wronged us; not necessarily because they deserve to be forgiven but because we love ourselves so much that we don’t want to keep on paying for the injustice.

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