Improve the Relationship with Yourself and Loved Ones

young coupleWe all have relationships. Whether they are with our family, friends, partners or lovers, they are all sacred friendships that require a certain amount of energy so that they remain positive. It’s my belief that the only relationships worth having are those that are loving, caring and nurturing. If you agree with me, and would like to improve this aspect of your life then it might be a great idea to keep reading.

What can you do to improve the relationship with your Self, and your loved ones?

Letting go of judgments might be a nice place to start. Do you ever find yourself judging others? What if what you see as absolute truth is just your own interesting point-of-view? Who’s to say that your point-of-view is “right” and someone else’s “wrong”?

The more time you focus on judging and criticizing the choices that other people make, the less time you have available to enjoy and create your own exciting life. Oh… and please remember, this includes judgment of your Self. If you make a mistake or forget something or do something that fuels a self-judgment, acknowledge it and have the awareness about what it is that just happened and then move on. Don’t beat yourself up about it and let it “eat you up” for hours or days. Do something to change the situation, confront it or simply get over it. Is it really worth all the drama?

If you eat a second piece of cake or a bowl of ice cream after dinner (something I LOVE to indulge in), please don’t judge yourself and feel guilty about it, savor the indulgence, walk away from the fridge, and make a different choice next time. I have been curbing my “after dinner ice cream habit” with a bowl of yoghurt and crushed up walnuts as a healthier alternative. Ice cream for me is now a once-a-month treat. What healthy alternatives can you replace your not-so-healthy habits with?

When you have a situation that is not working well for you, do you define it as difficult or a disaster? What does that do energetically? It solidifies the situation as a problem and perpetuates the wrongness. What if you asked, “How does it get any better than this?” Or you could ask, “What else is possible?” Questions such as these invite the universe to provide other possibilities, awarenesses, people and events to assist you.

Many illnesses and diseases start in the mind. Have you ever noticed that those people who say “I’m sick and tired of this or that” are often sick and tired in physical form as well?

Please be mindful of what you say as every word has an energy of its own.

In a study of 99 Harvard University students, those who were optimists at age 25 were significantly healthier at ages 45 and 60 than those who were pessimists. Other studies have linked a pessimistic explanatory style with higher rates of infectious disease, poor health, and earlier mortality.

It might not seem like that big of a deal to be down on yourself once in a while, but stop to take a moment to really listen to yourself over the next few weeks. Is it really once in a while, or is it most of the time?

Detox your mind by becoming more conscious of your thoughts and spoken words, and make it a priority to have gratitude for all that you are and all that you have the potential to be. You are the creator of your life, so how about turning all those negative thoughts 180 degrees and begin to be the happy and healthy person that you truly deserve to be.

Smile, laugh and be happy. Smile for all the things that you are grateful for in your life and feel the endorphins racing through your body. By simply smiling you will not only look younger and more attractive but you will also give your body a message of relaxation and peace.

As for toxic relationships… are they really working for you? Toxic relationships are like poison – stay away from them. Surround yourself with upbeat positive people and enjoy the magic of life.

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